Blurry Banana Bread Recipe

It’s strange that a banana bread recipe can make me cry like this. It’s in my mom’s handwriting, on a three by five note card. It’s slightly stained, a little bent and torn, and some of the ink is blurred where moisture has dropped on it.

It’s been a faithfully used recipe, and the bread was a favorite growing up. Mom used to make big batches of it. She would bake smaller loaves and give them out at Christmas, to teachers and neighbors. I even asked mom to bake the bread for my wedding.

One night a couple years ago, I walked across my back yard and hers to visit mom, through the damp, humid air that reminds me of her hometown in Louisiana… I often visited her in the evenings, lying on her bed with her, watching “The Walton’s” and talking. She’d taken to reading her daddy’s obituary over and over to me. She would say she wanted to go to Louisiana and visit her people. But she wasn’t sure if her daddy and mama were still there…

I say, “No, Mom. They died a long time ago.”

“They did?” she asks curiously, “How do you know?”

“You told me,” I answer honestly. “Remember, Grandpa died the year I graduated from high school? You took the bus to Louisiana so you could be at his funeral.”

“I did?” she says, with surprise. “I don’t remember that. I wish I could go to Louisiana again. I want to see my mama and daddy. But I don’t know if they are there anymore…”

“No, Mom. They’re in heaven now. They believed in Jesus and loved Him, so they are in heaven. And someday you will get to see them forever.”

“That’s right,” she nods, and seems reassured.

“Here Mom, let’s look at some pictures. Who’s this?” I hand her a picture of my dad and three brothers, when James, the youngest, was probably two or three. She looks at it intently.

“That looks like Dad, and…the boys.” I smile, glad that she recognizes them.

Mom adds, “Who are the boys?” I point to each of her sons and tell her who they are.

Yet some of the pictures she does recognize. She knows her maid of honor, who she hasn’t seen for years. She always seems to know her mama and daddy, but gets confused about her siblings.  She loves looking through pictures. I start labeling some of the photos that aren’t marked. It reassures her to read who they are. I tuck away some special ones in a scrapbook.

It’s getting late; I better leave so Dad can have his side of the bed. We share our “good-nights”, and I walk out of her room. I’m saying good-bye to Dad, when Mom joins us in the kitchen, carrying a small, white card.

“Here,” she says, reaching out a smudged looking card to me with her gently wrinkled, slightly arthritic hand, “do you want this recipe for banana bread?”

I already have a copy of it at home, but I somehow feel that I shouldn’t turn down this gift. “If you don’t need it anymore,” I say.

“No, I don’t need it,” she says. “I don’t think I’ve ever made banana bread.”

I thank her, and take the card. I walk back out through the humid night to my own home. I spend some time with my family, but after they go to bed, I keep looking at the tattered, worn, stained recipe card, with the blurred ink splashes. And it seems incredibly precious.

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2 thoughts on “Blurry Banana Bread Recipe

  1. JL says:

    A very poignant post–thank you! it moved me very much, and I cried. I found your site last week. My mother has Alzheimer’s, too. I like the way you bring spiritual insights into your journey. Although this post didn’t go in that direction, it was indicative of the deep love you have for your mother. Thank you for a beautifully written piece.

  2. chermor2 says:

    Thank you for your very kind comments, JL. You really encouraged me! I’m so sorry your mother has Alzheimer’s, too. It’s a hard journey, but God gives grace one day at a time. May He bless you!

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